When completing the communication styles and skills assessments and comparing the assessments from others I found it interesting in how I thought of myself as being a bit more aggressive verbally than my evaluators. While my assessment and the assessment of others put me in the same category as being moderate with verbal aggressiveness, my number was higher than theirs. The moderate category describes me as being balanced in regards to being respectful and considering others' view points and arguing fairly by attacking the position and not the person . I was actually glad that I viewed myself a tad harsher than others did. While my number was in the moderate range it was at the high end of being moderate and the others rated me as being in the mid-range. Therefore I do want to be more aware of my level of aggressiveness while communicating and be on the lower end of moderate.
This week I also gained more insight about how our schemas and myopia really does shape how we judge people just by looking at them. In turn these judgments and biases impact how we communicate with people. It is important to remember not to be so judgmental in order to be more effective communicators. I also learned how uncomfortable I truly was when being asked to make determinations about someone's life by simply looking at them. I think this will allow me to not rush to judgment when first meeting someone and will allow me to be open when communicating with people as I work to remove the biases and stereotyping.
Nice post, I mentioned this many times, but I am the kind of person that "knows" how a person is by just looking at their face. It is like if I have a special power that allowed me to scan the person and see how they are. Since I was a little girls I learn about this ability; I can say that I might have been wrong before, but most of the time I am right. I do not judge them based on their clothes; I look at their behavior, character. I also think that your quote say it all, we (yes, we) sometimes judge other people that we do not know and we get offended when other people do the same thing with us.
ReplyDeleteI was expecting my results for the aggressiveness scales to be much higher from my evaluators than they were. I feel like sometimes I get snarky when people don't treat me respectfully or are oppositional. I am a direct communicator and to some personality types that comes across as aggressive. I have never been one to sugar coat the facts or go skirting around the issue and that is intimidating to some individuals.
ReplyDeleteI love your last picture quote. It always amazes me when some people think they know "Everything About Everything", including your situations. I'm sure some of the behavior is unconsciously done, however, counterproductive nevertheless. I believe an occasional self assessment (inclusive of reflection) can only help build awareness of our shortcomings that may be harming relationships.
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